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Better post-match conversations improve confidence and learning.
By Phil "CoachRose" Rose — Founder & Director of Sports, UK PE Group — part of the CoachRose Insights Young Athlete Development series.
The question “Did you win?” is the wrong opener after most matches — especially the ones they lost.
Try instead: “What did you learn?” “What did you do well?” “What would you like to improve?” “What did your coach ask you to work on?”
These questions encourage development rather than fear of failure. They tell your child that learning matters more than the score.
Develop the Athlete. Develop the Person. — UK PE Group
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